No News is Good News!

We have been home now since last Thursday and it is SO NICE! Colten is great – eats, sleeps, poops. And does it all again. And again. And again. Besides the constant stream of stuff into diapers (we are often putting one on as he soils it), the 1-3 medical appointments each week, and the inability to travel anywhere as an entire family due to his carseat, we for now have a pretty normal newborn. With a few extra scars and bandages 😉
20121023-193943.jpg

Speaking of bandages, the shunt one is removed. The stitches are dissolvable:
20121023-193735.jpg

We have some followup appointments still including one with the orthopaedic surgeon. We anticipate that Colten may need some bracing for either hip dysplasia or to straighten out his feet/ankles, but that won’t be determined for another couple of weeks.

So things are a bit chaotic here with three boys three years and under, but they’re goofy, crazy and they love each other.
20121023-193853.jpg

We had a fantastic time at the pancake breakfast that the wonderful ladies from the Greenhouse Birth Center Village put on for us – THANK YOU ladies, it meant so much to us that you put so much time and energy into that event! And a huge thank you to everyone that came to visit, eat, and support our family! There have been other generous outpourings of support and a stream of delicious meals… Thank you to everyone. I am working on a thank you page (and tons of thank you notes), so stay tuned for that and more updates of course! But at least for now, a special thank you to Greg Kampe for some incredible support – we are overwhelmed by the extreme generosity from him and his circle of friends.

On Our Way Home… Again!

The past week was pretty difficult for Richard and I. While we were excited to go home from our NICU stay after Colten’s myelomeningocele repair, we left feeling like our boy wasn’t doing so well and that the boy we brought to Mott Children’s Hospital wasn’t really the same boy we were taking home. The first couple days of his life he had an alertness about him and we could make and hold eye contact with him. Then gradually after his first surgery his gaze became hazy and we felt as if he was just looking around but not really at anything. His eyes were very bulgy and making quality eye contact just seemed almost impossible. Richard kept saying “That’s not my son. He’s not in there.” We knew this was from the hydrocephalus and have a lot of hope that there is no permanent damage. We asked the neurosurgeons about all these things and they reassured us that the infant brain would be okay and could withstand this amount of fluid without damage. Which is why they waited until yesterday to implant his shunt. We hope they’re right!

20121018-173101.jpg

Just since yesterday’s surgery, it is reassuring to me that Colten’s head already looks and feels better, although it’s still measuring 39.5cm around the skull bones. This will take time to reshape and go down but it’s a slower process than just draining the fluid. His soft spots are not as taut as they were – much squishier now – that’s a good thing. His eyes open more naturally, not bulging out. He’s nursing more confidently now as well which is promising, even if he’s super tired and not over-eating like he was the past week! And we’ve made more quality eye contact and I’ve seen less gazing off into never-never-land. He still has a ways to go in terms of recovery, but we are busting out of this joint and heading home NOW!

20121018-173111.jpg
20121018-173121.jpg

First Haircut!

Before I get into today’s main event, the brothers gave their third musketeer a loving send-off this morning…

20121017-193646.jpg
20121017-193656.jpg

Surgery to place the shunt went very well! The same neurosurgery team that did Colten’s spinal surgery did the shunt placement (Dr. Maher and Dr. Stetler). The anchor or insertion point (I’m sure this is not what it’s called but for lack of the right words, I’m using those) is towards the front right area of his head. I assume Max will use this area as a future target during throwing practice. The tubing can be seen running down the side of his skull, behind his ear, down his chest and into the abdomen. We can’t see much of the incisions as they are obviously covered with bandages, but we can certainly see the shunt and tubing. Eventually his hair will mostly cover the top part of the shunt and the tubing will be barely visible beneath his skin. Kind of hard to even see it in the pictures actually!

20121017-193710.jpg

20121017-193724.jpg

When we were waiting during Colten’s surgery, we started talking about how he would be getting his first haircut back there as they would need to shave part of his head prior to surgery. We lamented about not having his first haircut hair saved like our other boys’ first haircuts. But he certainly has enough other mementos from the first two weeks of life – scars, a plethora of hospital bands and IDs, etc… So it is what it is. When we went back after surgery to see him, there on his bed was a canister with his saved hair! I love Mott Children’s Hospital!

We did find out two promising pieces of information today regarding future surgeries. We ran into one of the urologists in the pre-op area and were asking him about the surgery needed to fix Colten’s urinary reflux into his kidneys. His reflux is a Grade 2 diagnosis and the urologist said that about 80% of those kids grow out of the issue, so Colten might NOT need that surgery. YAY! Then in talking with Dr. Maher post-op, we found out that while all myelo kids will develop a tethered cord, only 1 in 3 will actually by symptomatic and require surgery (most often during the growth spurt ages of 8-18), so it is NOT something Colten will go through “for sure” – he has a 66% chance of NOT needing the surgery. Another YAY!

In regards to the shunt specifics, we are told we really don’t have to take a lot of precaution with it. Dr. Maher reassured us that there is more chance of a blockage causing an issue than an impact. Kids with shunts play football and get knocked in the head all the time and the shunt still functions just fine. They rarely see shunt impact issues. That was reassuring considering the wrestling habits of Colten’s older brothers! And in regards to infection (that would lead to brain damage), it’s something to watch for in the first three months closely, then through the first year, but after that if a shunt has not caused an infection it is highly unlikely that it will after that point. That was a bit of a relief as well.

So besides, you know, drilling his skull and probing his brain, we really got some good news today! And by the time Dr. Maher was done with surgery, Colten had already drained out at least 10cc of cerebral spinal fluid. Guess no more Pinky & The Brain costume for Halloween for him…

Colten is now on the general pediatric floor (12) and the docs hope to release us at some point tomorrow, Thursday, so long as all goes well throughout the night and he comes out of this sleepiness stage by then. I’m here overnight with Colten, and Richard returned home to be with Parker and Max.

Surgery #2 – Placing the Shunt

Colten had another cranial ultrasound Monday. It showed an increase in the ventricles of the brain, which means an increase in cerebral spinal fluid. His head also measured an increase, at 39cm (and this morning it measured 39.5cm). He was born at 36cm and normal rate of increase is no more than about 1cm per week. He is less than two weeks old and has increased 3.5cm. So we are heading back to Mott Children’s Hospital this morning for Colten’s 1:00 PM shunt placement surgery with Dr. Maher (he did Colten’s spinal cord surgery as well).

The surgery itself is pretty common and while we have a normal amount of anxiety that comes with putting your infant child through another surgery, especially one where they have to drill through the skull and get into the brain, the hard thing to swallow with this is that a shunt isn’t a grand “fix it” solution. So while we will avoid brain damage due to hydrocephalus (so far as we can tell), shunts themselves require monitoring and revisions over time. It will be another lifelong piece of the puzzle, another part of our new normal.

Today’s post is short… Life is a little more crazy and busy now that everyone is home and daily doctor appointments have been our week so far. We will post again after the shunt placement. Recovery is minimal, so they say. Colten and I will stay overnight for about 24 hours if all goes well. Longer if there are any complications in surgery. We hope to join the mass of people descending upon the Okemos Applebee’s on Saturday for a special pancake breakfast to support Colten! Thank you to everyone who has reached out in one way or another to help us – we appreciate your concern, generosity and love!

We’re On Our Way Home!

Colten had two more tests before being discharged, a VCUG and an MRI. The VCUG came back showing that Colten has urinary reflux back into his kidneys. So he needs to stay on antibiotics indefinitely. Urology will follow up with us in 3-4 months; surgery will be required to correct this issue – it is not urgent though. The MRI has not been read by neurology but it was really just a baseline MRI to have on file.

20121012-220514.jpg

The great news is that I’m posting this from the car on our way home!!! We pulled out of Mott Children’s Hospital at 9:00 PM. I’m so happy, and Richard is so scared (nervous about hydrocephalus). But we have our 11 page discharge summary, supplies to get us started, and I have to take Colten back to Mott Monday morning for his follow-up cranial ultrasound.

20121012-220612.jpg

So we are almost home… Parker & Max will get home tomorrow, and we will enjoy a family weekend before all the various appointments start flooding out schedule.

Thank you everyone for your support, for reading and learning with us, for the visits and well-wishes. We are amazed at how many people have reached out to us and we appreciate every bit of support! Thank you for joining us on Colten’s adventure!

20121012-220636.jpg

What the Shunt?!

We are getting discharged! Colten has a few more tests tonight – a VCUG (please don’t ask me what it stands for – go look it up if you want to know) which will test reflux into the kidneys (schedule for 3pm), and an MRI (scheduled for 4pm) that will go “tip to tail”. The MRI isn’t really looking for anything, it’s more of a baseline of what his brain, specifically the Chiari II Malformation, and his spine look like now so we have something to compare to as he grows. As long as Colten sleeps through the MRI, or is at least mostly still, they won’t have to sedate him and we can go home TONIGHT. If they need to sedate him, we go home tomorrow morning. I CANNOT WAIT to get home with ALL my boys! And my bed. I miss my bed.

The other day I had this long post ready to go about what a shunt is and what it does. Then it got erased when I lost my internet connection. So I decided I would not rewrite it unless Colten actually needed a shunt. The past three days, the biggest question has been whether or not Colten will need a shunt, and when he will need it. We were kind of on a roller coaster between thinking it would be safer to have one going home than not, not wanting to deal with a shunt at all or at least not yet, not understanding why the surgeons would want to delay it, measuring his skull, waiting for ultrasound reports, and on and on and on.  While he isn’t having a shunt placed during this stay, the neurosurgeon seems pretty confident that he’ll need one in the next few weeks. So why not place it now? With a wound on his back from his spinal surgery, and then adding another surgery in his brain, he would be at a higher risk for infection. If he were to get an infection in the shunt area, he would be at risk for brain damage. We don’t like brain damage. Plus, the less a newborn has to be under anesthesia, the better. Every day an infant can go without needing a procedure/surgery, the better, so long as the benefits of waiting outweigh the risks of waiting.

We have to come back on Monday for a followup ultrasound of his brain. At that point they’ll determine that it’s time to place the shunt or we’ll come back again the next week for another ultrasound. We’ll do these weekly followups until a shunt is placed. The good thing is that the stay in the hospital after a shunt placement, barring any complications, is usually only about 24 hours. That sounds odd to me because they’re probing my son’s brain. But whatever. I am not a doctor.

So why will Colten need a shunt eventually? Because of the hydrocephalus, or excessive fluid in his brain. We all have cerebral spinal fluid (CSF) – it is produced and reabsorbed in the ventricles inside the brain (think of a tootsie pop – the chocolate is the ventricles and the sucker portion is the brain). The CSF coats and protects the brain and spinal cord. Normally, our body processes and moves CSF in and out of the brain, up and down the spinal column, to keep the amount in an around the brain safe and steady. When someone has hydrocephalus, the body is unable to regulate the amount of fluid, causing it to build up in the brain. Too much fluid in the brain causes brain damage by forcing the brain tissue to press into the skull. Remember?  We don’t like brain damage. So a shunt is placed to pump CSF from the brain down to the abdominal cavity where the body can absorb it.

Normal vs.Hydrocephalic Ventricles

Ventriculoperitoneal Shunt (VP Shunt)
Ventriculoperitoneal Shunt (VP Shunt)

If you want to know more scientific information about hydrocephalus, you can read more HERE. But I’m not typing anymore about that because you probably don’t care THAT much about the science behind it!

So WHY does Colten even have hydrocephalus? Because of his Chiari II Malformation. The easiest way for me to explain this is to take the text right from the Spina Bifida Association’s website [you can read the full text here – just note that Colten is NOT symptomatic Chiari; he has the malformation but not the severe symptoms – thankfully]:

Chiari Type II or Arnold-Chiari malformation, is a more severe form in which the cerebellar vermis and some portion of the brain stem descend into the cervical spine. Many changes of the brain are associated with this abnormality. Although some degree of this malformation is present in the vast majority of persons with Spina Bifida, it appears to be symptomatic in about one of three individuals.

So to note again, Colten is NOT symptomatic Chiari, however, this malformation does add to the occurrence of hydrocephalus.

We personally kept going back and forth regarding our feelings of having a shunt placed. On the one hand, not having a shunt would be awesome but would require weekly monitoring once discharged from Mott – meaning driving back to Ann Arbor every week. While the drive isn’t a big deal, we would feel like we were constantly worried about an increase in pressure and brain damage. Even in just a week, every little bump or change in his skull shape sends Richard into a bit of a panic. On the other hand, having a shunt would mean less stress and immediate follow-ups, but shunts are not “one and done”. Here’s the statistics on shunts, again from the Spina Bifida Association’s website:

Most people with Spina Bifida and shunted hydrocephalus will need the shunt for life. The most common problem with shunts is that they can get blocked up, break or come apart. About 40 percent of shunts will fail and need changing (or revision) within one year, 60 percent within five years and 80-85 percent within 10 years. About 20 percent of people with Spina Bifida will need more than one shunt revision.

So we are still waiting on the final “go” but we know that a shunt is in his immediate future. For now, we’re just incredibly excited to get HOME. Mott Children’s Hospital has been wonderful to Colten and to us and we are so grateful for the incredibly family-friendly staff and atmosphere here. But we want to take our little man home.

“I Love My Little Brother!”

This afternoon was the best afternoon we’ve had in a while…

My sister brought Parker and Max up to meet Colten and allow them to spend some quality time with Richard and me. It’s been a few days since we’ve seen the boys and today was the first time they met Colten! It was truly a tear-jerking moment for us and the highlight of the past few weeks.

Both boys had HUGE grins when they came in and saw us and were incredibly excited to see Colten. Parker came right up to him and wanted to kiss him, hug him and hold him. He kept saying, “I love my little brother!” Max kept pointing, smiling and saying “baby” and “Cole” (and then would proceed to point to and name everyone else in the room).

Richard bought the boys a play medical kit and as soon as Parker got it opened, he turned into Dr. Parker and started checking Colten’s breathing, ears, and giving him shots and medicine. After a few minutes of play, we took the boys over to the big indoor playroom here (yes, Mott Children’s Hospital rocks!). They had a blast running around there, then we took them down to the cafeteria for dinner. After that we walked over to the Ronald McDonald House where Richard and I are staying (ok, Richard stays there, I sleep in Colten’s room) and spent another hour playing in their playroom. We got great hugs, kisses, laughs and playtime with those boys and it was much needed. We checked in on Colten a couple times in there as well and each time they were just infatuated with him. The smiles on their face showed genuine love!

We cannot wait to get home and be a family, all together!

20121010-203519.jpg

20121010-203535.jpg

20121010-203547.jpg

20121010-203558.jpg

20121010-203607.jpg

20121010-203616.jpg

20121010-203628.jpg

Maintaining the Status Quo

It’s actually been kind of boring the past couple days. In a NICU-boring sense. We are just in repair and maintain mode here – making sure Colten’s wound is healing from surgery and that he’s progressing in other areas like weight gain. Colten should get his stitches and drain port removed today by plastic surgery. I’m excited and nervous about that – glad the stitches will be out but just nervous about the wound area healing properly of course. Because the seam goes so far down into his buttocks, we have to be incredibly careful about fecal matter getting into the area. And I have never seen poop like this before! And for those of you that know my other boys, you know that they are high-quality poop explosion-ists. Colten has them beat. Due to the amoxicillin, his poop is even runnier than a normal newborn’s. And, where most babies’ bodies store up a bit of urine or poop in the proper channels until more comes along and pushes it out, myelo kids (as our PT calls them – kids with myelomeningocele) don’t – everything just goes out as soon as it hits the end of the road. With training this can be controlled but during infancy, it’s a royal mess. And the constant running of bodily fluids out his back end has caused his butt to look like the Japanese flag. The nursing staff worked with a wound care specialist to come up with a regime to help him a bit – so we have a mixture of iLex (yes, the i is really lower case! How fitting for a family of iAddicts) plus vaseline that goes on. This creates almost a permanent barrier on his bottom that we don’t even clean off – we just keep adding to it. Then after spreading that around, we squirt on Stomahesive – a powder that keeps the paste from sticking to the diaper. I am thinking our new normal now means no cloth diapers for this kiddo. Joy. On a good note, because he doesn’t have any active sensory nerves around his butt, he can’t feel the pain from the rawness. But of course, it still has to be carefully treated. As Colten gets older he will work with an occupational therapist to learn how to manage his toilet needs based on timing.

Yesterday Colten had his second PT appointment. We worked on stretching out his hip flexors so he can get his legs straight instead of always being pulled up; he did NOT like this one bit. We also worked on stretching out his ankle to point more downward instead of being pulled up by the calf. He didn’t mind this so much. But then again, he doesn’t have much feeling there so that’s why he didn’t mind! These are stretches/exercises we’ll need to do on Colten and he’ll need to do to himself eventually, for the rest of his life. Dan did more stretching today as well as dermatome testing – pinching areas of his legs and feet and butt to see where a response would come. Colten’s sensory reception was a bit higher today – he responded to feeling pinches in the first two toes of his left foot and half of the top of his left foot, then on the inside and outside of his left calf. His right foot was still non-responsive to touch but he showed some response on a couple areas of his right calf. Nothing on his buttocks. Still no actual movement in the calf or feet or toes – and Dan isn’t expecting that to change. We know he feels the pinches because he’s using his hip flexors and knee extensors to pull his leg up and away from the pain.

20121010-124723.jpg

Dan explained that a child’s myelomeningocele level isn’t necessarily a black and white diagnosis. While Colten is classified currently as L3 (lumbar 3), it doesn’t mean that everything L3 and below won’t work – myelomeningocele often has more of a spattering effect. So even though he doesn’t have motor nerves in the lower part of his legs, he does have some sensory nerves. This translates to the reality that while he won’t have use of his feet and calves, he may have some feeling which is great. Not being able to fully feel, we will have to be careful to watch for things like cuts or bruising, and temperature and environmental dangers. Dan gave the example that when playing outside, Colten could easily be sitting on a rock and never feel it. We will need to be his eyes for him in the beginning until he learns that he shouldn’t sit on rocks. He won’t be able to use his feet to test bath water – he will need to learn to use his hands first. And so on.

Today Dan removed the tape-splint he put on Colten yesterday and was very happy with the alignment of his ankle bone to his calf. He will come back later today to re-check him and determine if he needs another 24 hours of splinting. This is to correct the “up and out” formation of his feet.

20121010-124736.jpg

Besides PT, we get visited everyday by the following departments: plastic surgery, urology, neurosurgery, and neonatology. Plastic surgery (“plastics”) is responsible for checking the healing of his surgical seam and will be the ones to remove the sutures and drain today. Urology is monitoring renal (kidney) function and bladder emptying via ultrasounds. Neurosurgery is monitoring for hydrocephalus. Today they found his head circumference was stable from yesterday, but is displaying a lot of “sunset eyes” which is typical in children with hydrocephalus – they drop their eyes down far in the sockets and you see a creepy amount of the whites of the eyes. It looks very weird with Colten does this. The big determining factor for whether they’ll place a shunt will be the ultrasound tomorrow, coupled with what they’ve observed in him the past few days. Not sure what time that ultrasound will be done or read by Neuro, but we are anxious to see what the decision is.

In general, Colten is doing great otherwise. They’re watching a few things like bilirubin and sodium levels as well as overall weight gain, but he’s “just a myelo kid recovering from surgery” as the PT puts it. I know I talk about him a lot but I swear he’s a baby whisperer. Colten just settles in and stares at him so peacefully… And he’s been able to provide Richard and I with great insight on how to move forward from here and bring Colten home just like any other child. It’s hard to grasp some of the realizations of the whole thing – that he’ll never jump or run and that he most likely will wind up in a wheelchair for life. It’s not as if we think less of someone that cannot run, jump, or is in a wheelchair. It’s just that every parent has a picture of what their child will do in life and most parents don’t picture braces, mobility devices, catheters, and wheelchairs. We just have to work through the process of changing our picture, of changing our normal.

20121010-125029.jpg

Physical Therapy Appointment #1 of 7,217

This morning Colten had his first physical therapy appointment with Dan Santioni. We already have a great feeling about this man and are excited to work more with him. He started with some basic muscle response testing, sensory responses, visual and auditory preliminary testing and some stretching. Clinically we should clarify that most of the doctors do not refer to his condition as Spina Bifida because that is a more vague term and most people associate that with Spina Bifida Occulta. Colten’s diagnosis is myelomeningocele. [Read more about the different types of Spina Bifida here.]

Now, back to PT… It was fascinating, and a bit difficult, to watch Dan explore Colten. He started with a lot of muscle and sensory testing. He would push and poke and pinch different areas to see what sort of response he could get out of Colten. He did some stretches to see what sort of baseline angles Colten could move his legs and feet into. The dermatome testing was the most intriguing. He would pinch an area on Colten that corresponded with a certain level of the spinal nerves. If a response was received, those nerves are in good shape. No response? Bad nerves. So even though we already had a handle on where Colten’s defect was, there was a comfort in Dan also finding that L3 seemed to be the location.

Dan helping Colten stay "organized"

Dan helping Colten stay “organized”

Dan measures Colten's range of motion

Dan measures Colten’s range of motion

Dan checks Colten's visual responses

Dan checks Colten’s visual responses

Based on Colten’s responses today, here’s the good list / bad list.

Positive responses were seen in the:

  • hip flexors –  (moves your leg forward and upwards: rectus femoris, psoas)
  • knee extension – (allows you to kick out your lower leg: “quadriceps”)
  • knee flexor – (allows you to pull the lower leg back and up: “hamstrings”)

 

No responses were found in the:

  • calf
  • foot
  • hip extension (pulls leg back behind body; includes gluteus, or butt muscles – required for walking stability)

 

So what does that mean? For now, it doesn’t really affect him, since we’ll be carrying him around anyway. As Colten begins to get to a crawling age, he will most likely find an adaptive and creative way to crawl. At around nine (9) months of age when babies begin to stand, he will work on standing with the aid of braces (at a minimum a Knee Ankle Foot Orthosis – KAFO) and other assistive walking devices. At around twelve (12) months of age when children start exploring walking, most likely he will need a Hip Knee Ankle Foot Orthosis (HKAFO). Picture Forrest Gump’s “Magic Shoes”. Because he has little to no response in the hip extensor muscles, his chances of walking are slim to none without any assistive device. With aids, hard work, upper body strength and will, he might be able to walk with braces and orthosis.

Here are images of a KAFO and HKAFO…

Knee Ankle Foot Orthosis (KAFO)

Hip Knee Ankle Foot Orthosis (HKAFO)He addressed Colten’s feet as well but has to meet with the orthopaedic surgeon for clarification on whether we will actually brace them or use manual manipulation and therapy to stretch them. If you missed a previous explanation of the issue, in short – it’s the opposite of club foot. Instead of going in and down, his go up and out. Getting Colten’s feet to point out/down past 90 degrees (flat-footed) is nearly impossible because his tibialis anterior muscle (front of the shin) are too tight. While loosening the muscle will allow his feet to provide some stability during the use of an orthosis, he still won’t have use of the muscle.

Dan, the PT, said that most of the kids he works with that have similar leg/hip function, or lack thereof, will often go from various devices and/or orthosis to a wheelchair simply because they can be faster and more independent. The orthosis is cumbersome, requires a great amount of energy, can cause sores and pains, and takes extra time to move around. A wheelchair allows the child/teen to move about more freely at a community level in a more comfortable setting.

There still are moments of grief and sadness for Richard and I as we think of what Colten will go through during his lifetime, and what we will endure alongside him. It’s a roller coaster of wanting to feel empowered and helpful, then feeling angry and sad. So while we certainly won’t take anyone’s word about what Colten can and cannot do – we’ll let him show us, we have a better understanding of the future in front of him and how things could possibly progress and what’s in store for us to test and explore with him. Dan also shared with us a great story of a young man, now 25, with myelomeningocele at an even higher defect level than Colten. I won’t retell the story but suffice it to say that the moral hit home for us: treat Colten as you would your other sons. We need to demand the same from him as we do from Parker and Max. We must expect him to do things on his own and “figure it out” (a phrase Parker is already used to hearing!). Every child has challenges in life – some are harder or more frequent than others. But it’s our job as parents to help them find the best “me” that they can become. The rest is up to them.

Booby Trapped

I’ve mentioned before that this adventure redefines normal for us and sure enough, yesterday that concept smacked me across the face. Quite a lot happened in the past day since yesterday afternoon’s post so I’ll try to catch you all up…

Yesterday afternoon (Saturday), things were going pretty well. I had actually started to nurse Colten the night before and continued to do so Saturday. He was off all pain medications (was on scheduled doses of tylenol with one dose of morphine in there as well) in less than 24 hours post-op. This baffles me, as I am still randomly popping some ibuprofen myself from the c-section. Then a nurse reminded me that he may actually not have much sensitivity back there by his incision and that might be why he’s not in pain. Either way, he’s been off pain meds and he seems to be doing great. He was still groggy through Saturday afternoon but would have some small awake times with his eyes wide open and looking around.

20121008-004650.jpg

Richard and I decided we really needed to see those other two boys of ours. We had not seen them since Thursday and it was Saturday. Not a huge deal as they’ve been to Grammy and Papa’s for three days before but this was just different. We were so engrossed in Colten that we felt like we had not seen them in a week. So we took care of Colten’s immediate feeding time slot, left behind some milk for the next feeding and planned to be back by the one after that. It was extremely weird leaving him by himself. I know, the nurses actually watch in on them and mostly he just slept, but STILL. Very hard to walk away from him.

We got to my parents’ house around dinner time and they took off. I’m sure it was a much needed break for them!!! I reminded them they had to come back so we could return to Mott’s! We enjoyed dinner, playtime and getting the boys to bed that night. It was refreshing to see them and talk with them, but it was insanely heart-wrenching to walk out the door again and leave them there. We are so grateful that my parents and the rest of my family are able to juggle caring for them and occupying them right now – it’s truly making our stay with Colten feasible. It’s still hard to be so removed from them. Usually when they’re with my parents I try to get updates on what they’re up to, pictures, etc… It bothers me that they are so far from my daily thoughts right now – everything here just sucks you in and removes you from the outside world. Richard and I both had a good sized breakdown after leaving them. Besides dealing with all of Colten’s needs, the hardest part of this is not having those boys with us every day. My mom said they woke up this morning in GREAT moods though, so I think the re-charge was necessary for all of us and will hopefully get us through some more days until we can see them again – and hopefully get them here to meet their little brother!

When we left my parents I called Colten’s nurse to let her know we were on our way. She informed me that Colten had lost his IV and they just were struggling to get it back in. They could continue trying or switch him to full feeds. Since getting the IV out means one more step closer to normalcy and one less tube to manage, we decided to go to full feeds. Because I had been unable to pump much out, the nurse said that formula supplementation would be required. And meltdown. I was upset by this because I felt like feeding was at least one thing I would be able to do for him post-op (and one thing I could still control), and formula wasn’t in my plan. He had spent days on sugar water already and I wanted to focus on feeding him myself after surgery. The nurse telling me I didn’t have enough and forcing the formula supplementation was just a big smack in the face reminding me that since September 18 when we found out about Colten’s Spina Bifida, we had surrendered more control than we could ever imagine. Richard did the right thing by reminding me that supplementing would not be that big of a deal – the kid already had more drugs in his system than both of his brothers combined and formula would be just fine.

So we’ve been on an interesting feeding adventure since then. Since our goal is exclusive breastfeeding, but the supply isn’t there, we have agreed to structure each feeding time slot this way (don’t even get me started on scheduled feeding for a 4-day old… just remind me “new normal”):

  1. Determine the amount of milk Colten needs to take in at this feeding
  2. Weigh Colten on baby scale for pre-weight
  3. Breastfeed
  4. Weigh Colten on baby scale for post-weight
  5. Subtract the difference in weight from the amount of milk he needs to have.
  6. Give him any expressed/pumped milk in a bottle, subtracting the amount from the total he’s eaten
  7. Give him formula to make up for the difference between the goal minus the breastmilk

The most irritating thing about this, besides scheduled versus on-demand (which they’re okay with us trying but we still have to insanely monitor everything), is that on a couple weigh-ins, Colten has weighed in LESS afterwards instead of more. I finally requested a new scale, which we got. The other irritating thing is how crazy little milk gets pumped out in these early days. Frustrating!

Alright, enough about me. Onto Colten’s update! Once again all the various departments did rounds – we saw plastic surgery, urology, neonatology and neurosurgery today. Urology expects to take the catheter out tomorrow, Monday, unless it is determined that some other surgery may take place sooner rather than later. Urology is also putting Colten on a small-dose daily antibiotic to prevent kidney infection while we wait to thoroughly check for bladder and bowel function. The neurosurgeons checked in on Colten for hydrocephalus and felt that his head size was growing a bit and we’ll continue to watch it very closely. The ultrasound will be tomorrow – Monday. The neurosurgeon said to us, “You’ll want to get yourselves comfortable with the idea of getting a shunt placed.” So we are. And I had a whole post about the shunt and it got deleted. But we’ll post more about that later…

That pretty much catches us up. The rest of today was just full of weighing, feeding, weighing, swearing, feeding, and then tons of snuggles and smiles as Colten spent the most time yet awake and alert!

20121008-004802.jpg

Richard and I even got to enjoy a quiet late dinner together thanks to various munchies brought to us by my Aunt MJ and Uncle Rick and my best friend, Kristen! Thanks for a delicious smorgasbord of food!